Filtering Stress

August 29, 2019 by C. Scott McMillin

Stress builds up beneath your awareness. Then it passes a certain level and suddenly, you’re really aware of it.

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About Saying “No”

June 27, 2019 by C. Scott McMillin

You may have unintentionally established a pattern of saying things you didn’t really mean, or making promises you didn’t keep, or threatening consequences that never came to pass.

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We All Need Boundaries

October 17, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

It might be a friend, or a colleague. Maybe an ex, or a sort-of relationship. Might be a relative who doesn’t live with you. In any case, their problems are draining YOU of energy and time, and the stress is mounting. It’s a toxic relationship.

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Should I Stay or Leave?

September 11, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Always good to collect opinions from others. But when you feel you’ve talked to enough people, try applying ‘impact analysis’ to the issue.

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Helping Staff Manage Boundaries

April 7, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Countertransference issues can be a genuine hazard in our field. If allowed to continue, it can lead to some pretty spectacular incidents.

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My Counselors are Being Manipulated!

March 31, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Counselors and therapists are — and I’m generalizing shamelessly here, so forgive me — warm, empathetic, even sympathetic by nature.

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Sure, “set boundaries.” How?

March 14, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Woman holding phone, looking doubtful or worried.

With some people, it’s better not to answer,because they’ll just argue with you anyway. In that case, smile and depart the scene.

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Setting Boundaries: Understanding Your Client’s Agenda

January 14, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

An agenda refers to the client’s underlying plan or program. Not just what he hopes to accomplish, but the things he’s determined not to do.

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Setting Boundaries: The Initial Meeting

January 13, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

For some clients, particularly those with problems with rules and authority, their experience with boundaries is probably as important as anything that happens in counseling.

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The Professional as Target: Being Manipulated

January 11, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

As a professional, you have an agenda to fulfill. So too does the addict. His agenda is very different, but he’s even more committed to it.

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