Topic: toxic relationships
It might be a friend, or a colleague. Maybe an ex, or a sort-of relationship. Might be a relative who doesn’t live with you. In any case, their problems are draining YOU of energy and time, and the stress is mounting. It’s a toxic relationship.
Anybody who lives or works with an active alcoholic is likely to hear a lot of excuses, along with protests that they are not, in fact, excuses.
With some people, it’s better not to answer,because they’ll just argue with you anyway. In that case, smile and depart the scene.
The family is operating under the misconception that folks in their town don’t know, when they already do.