Families: Why Alanon?

February 11, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

If you’ve made friends among people who share your experience and are willing to listen, you’re miles ahead of most family members, who still have no place where they can safely vent their own problems.

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12-Step Programs for Families

February 10, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Family programs like Al-anon and Alateen can help us learn ways to recover from the effects of someone else’s addiction, and help us contribute to their recovery

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Communicating–In Spite of Cognitive Bias

February 7, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

The more emotional the topic, the more subjective we tend to be. And when something threatens us, it can be a real struggle to detach enough to come to a rational decision.

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Am I Being Supportive? Or Enabling?

February 5, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Where real support is the result of caring, enabling usually springs from guilt, fear, or a misplaced sense of responsibility for someone else.

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Why Addicted People Manipulate

January 12, 2012 by C. Scott McMillin

Takes a while to become really good at it, but most do. Addicts are not always great manipulators — that would be somebody so skilled you never realized you were being manipulated — but they’re bold, persistent, and creative when it comes to getting what they want

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Why Enabling?

December 9, 2011 by C. Scott McMillin

A primary enabler is someone whose well-established pattern of enabling permits the alcoholic or addict to continue drinking or drug use.

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Alcoholic Defenses

December 4, 2011 by C. Scott McMillin

Even if such arguments have stymied you for decades, it’s quite possible, with a little coaching, to deal with them effectively in future.

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What Keeps Alcoholic and Addicted People From Getting Help

December 1, 2011 by Cecile

We can’t control the alcoholic/ addict, but we’re not powerless. Some things we can do (and stop doing) to help them listen to something besides the addiction…

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Intervention with a professional present?

November 13, 2011 by C. Scott McMillin

So the professional’s real value to an intervention is as a guide. One who can offer something the family really does need: a degree of informed objectivity.

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The Bullying Game

October 24, 2011 by C. Scott McMillin

Pretty soon we’re having a big argument which ends with me feeling miserable and him gone to the pub.

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