Topic: getting help
Scott McMillin, Recovery Systems Institute Principal, discusses the barriers that keep an addict or alcoholic from seeking help. Learning new ways to communicate can allow a caring family member, friend, or professional to motivate them to get the help they need.
If something contradicts his/her experience, they’ll believe the experience. However, if we’re able to provide information in such a way that it better explains that experience, we gain credibility that extends to other positions we may take.
You should expect the alcoholic/ addict to test the agreement. It’s only natural. They need to see if you really mean it, or were just blowing smoke. If you stick to your guns, they’ll abandon the challenge.
It’s a much-repeated observation of psychology, that people feel an urge to act in ways that are consistent with their previous actions.
People with alcoholism learn to test the resolve of those around them. That doesn’t mean they’re unaware of the need for change, just that they aren’t certain that other people will be there to support them.
It’s more about knowing exactly what we hope to gain from an interaction, and moving steadily towards that goal.
We want to simplify difficult choice so as to maximize the chance the alcoholic person will make the right one.
The Guide includes a step-by-step explanation of how intervention works and how to plan one for your addict/alcoholic.