At one time, critical thinking skills were a required part of education in many schools. I have the impression that’s no longer the case. Too bad, because faced with a flood of contradictory arguments, we need them more than ever.
If you love someone who is struggling with addiction or alcoholism, you can help their journey to recovery by learning some simple communications rules.
It’s as if the addict is so accustomed to just acting on impulse that he/she has lost touch with the source of the impulse — ordinarily a negative emotional state such as anxiety, anger, sadness, etc.
Anybody who lives or works with an active alcoholic is likely to hear a lot of excuses, along with protests that they are not, in fact, excuses.
Our addicted (or alcoholic) loved one doesn’t want to hear about it. Dealing with them effectively starts with learning new ways to communicate.
The more emotional the topic, the more subjective we tend to be. And when something threatens us, it can be a real struggle to detach enough to come to a rational decision.
Pretty soon we’re having a big argument which ends with me feeling miserable and him gone to the pub.
Once someone with alcoholism acknowledges the need for professional help, even insincerely, the biggest obstacle is gone.