Articles
Contracting
You should expect the alcoholic/ addict to test the agreement. It’s only natural. They need to see if you really mean it, or were just blowing smoke. If you stick to your guns, they’ll abandon the challenge.
Topics: communication, Effective Communication with An Addicted or Alcoholic Person, getting help, negotiation
Defense: Denial
Repeated problems related to drinking or drug use force even the person in denial to acknowledge something is wrong–eventually.
Topics: Alcoholic Defenses, defense mechanisms, intervention
Consistency
It’s a much-repeated observation of psychology, that people feel an urge to act in ways that are consistent with their previous actions.
Topics: co dependency, communication, Effective Communication with An Addicted or Alcoholic Person, getting help, intervention
Comparing Out vs. Comparing In
Beginning your statement with ‘yes, but’ means you’re already arguing. And rest assured, the alcoholic person is well prepared for argument.
Topics: communication, defense mechanisms, intervention
The Mighty Commitment
People with alcoholism learn to test the resolve of those around them. That doesn’t mean they’re unaware of the need for change, just that they aren’t certain that other people will be there to support them.
Topics: communication, Effective Communication with An Addicted or Alcoholic Person, getting help, intervention
Clarity
It’s more about knowing exactly what we hope to gain from an interaction, and moving steadily towards that goal.
Topics: communication, Effective Communication with An Addicted or Alcoholic Person, getting help, intervention
Dual Dilemma: The Problem of Co-Occurring Disorders
It took a while to develop effective guidelines for use of psychiatric meds with a population that was already addicted.
Topics: co-occurring disorders, prescription medications
Contrast
We want to simplify difficult choice so as to maximize the chance the alcoholic person will make the right one.
Topics: communication, decision making, Effective Communication with An Addicted or Alcoholic Person, getting help, intervention
Defense: Fantasy
Eventually, the fantasy bubble gets popped, and the addict realizes they’ve wasted a lot of time when they could have been making progress.
Topics: Alcoholic Defenses, defense mechanisms, intervention